53 W Jackson Blvd. #838 Chicago, IL 60604
Mon - Fri: 9AM-8PM
Sat: 9 AM-5 PM
Sun: Closed
53 W Jackson Blvd. #838 Chicago, IL 60604
Mon - Fri: 9AM-8PM
Sat: 9 AM-5 PM
Sun: Closed
Relationships outside the mainstream deserve care, respect, and skilled support, not judgment or misunderstanding.
At Gemstone Wellness, we offer polyamorous and kink-affirming relationship therapy for individuals, couples, and multi-partner systems navigating the beauty and complexity of consensual non-monogamy, BDSM, and alternative relationship structures. Whether you’re new to poly or kink, or have been practicing for years, therapy with us gives you a safe space to explore communication, boundaries, identity, and connection.
You don’t have to be struggling in your relationship(s) to seek therapy. Many people come to therapy to strengthen what’s already working, untangle challenges with care, or feel more secure and aligned within their relationships.
Polyamorous and kink-involved relationships carry layers of complexity that aren’t well supported by mainstream culture. Navigating multiple attachments, power dynamics, consent, and stigmas can place strain on your relationships.
You might notice:
If any of this resonates, you’re not doing poly or kink “wrong.” These challenges are common and they deserve thoughtful, informed, and affirming care.
At Gemstone Wellness, we are committed to affirming consensual non-monogamy, kink, BDSM, and diverse relationship identities. Our therapists approach this work without shaming or trying to steer you toward monogamy or “normative” relationship models.
We work with:
Your relationship is not a problem to be fixed. Therapy is a place to understand what’s happening, clarify consent and communication, and create structures that support everyone involved.
Polyamorous and kink-affirming therapy helps you move from confusion or tension into clarity, confidence, and connection. Rather than focusing on rules or rigid formulas, we explore what actually works for you and your relationships.
Through therapy, you can:
Over time, therapy supports relationships that feel intentional, sustainable, and rooted in mutual respect.
When navigating non-traditional relationships, it’s easy for misunderstandings or unspoken needs to escalate quickly. Therapy helps slow things down so everyone can feel heard, respected, and supported.
Here’s what the process looks like at Gemstone Wellness:
Finding the Right Fit
Connection matters. We thoughtfully match you with a therapist who is experienced in poly- and kink-affirming care and attuned to your identities, relationship structures, and goals. Feeling safe with your therapist is essential.
Creating Safety and Consent
We begin by establishing emotional safety, clarity around consent, and shared goals for therapy. This includes honoring each person’s voice and creating space for honest conversation without fear of judgment.
Understanding the Dynamics
Rather than focusing on surface-level conflict, we explore what’s happening underneath: attachment needs, nervous system responses, past experiences, and relational patterns that shape how challenges show up.
Clarifying Agreements and Boundaries
Therapy supports clear, ongoing conversations about boundaries, agreements, power, and consent, especially as relationships evolve. We help translate values into practical, livable structures.
Practicing New Ways of Relating
In sessions, you’ll practice communication, repair, and negotiation in real time. These skills carry into your relationships, supporting more ease, trust, and connection.
Whether you’re deepening existing relationships or navigating change, therapy offers a steady, affirming container for growth.
Many people in poly and kink communities carry experiences of relational trauma, shame, or marginalization. Our therapists are trauma-informed and sex-positive, meaning we understand how power, consent, and safety intersect with the nervous system.
This approach includes:
We don’t rush decisions or push outcomes. Instead, we support awareness, agency, and authentic choice.
Michelle specializes in depression, anxiety, grief, trauma (PTSD), and identity exploration, with a particular focus on clients affected by religious trauma.
Jane specializes in sex therapy, anxiety and depression, grief and loss, chronic health issues, substance use disorders and complex trauma.
Stef specializes in supporting the LGBTQIA2S+ community, offering therapy for grief, trauma, anxiety, ADHD, and gender/sexual identity exploration.
Alina specializes in trauma, EMDR, substance use disorders, anxiety, emotional regulation, and co-occurring issues like depression and grief.
Andrea is a licensed clinical therapist specializing in compassionate care for grief, loss, and life transitions.
Dr. Martin specializes in anxiety, trauma, grief, and identity, and loves working w/ the intersectionalities of neurodivergence.
At Gemstone Wellness, we believe healing and growth happen when people feel genuinely seen and respected. Poly and kink-affirming therapy requires nuance, openness, and cultural humility. You won’t need to educate your therapist or defend your relationship here.
Clients choose Gemstone because we offer:
Polyamorous and kink-affirming therapy is available:
We offer services in English and Spanish. We are in network with Aetna and Blue Cross PPO plans and provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement.
Share what you’re looking for in therapy, what insurance you have, your availability, and whether you prefer in-person or online sessions.
We thoughtfully match you with the therapist best suited to your needs. That therapist will reach out to schedule a consultation before you begin.
During the consultation, you’ll have the chance to get to know one another, ask any questions, and make sure you feel comfortable moving forward.
Polyamorous and kink-involved relationships are meaningful, intentional, and worthy of care. If you’re feeling uncertain, overwhelmed, or simply want to deepen connection, therapy offers a space where your relationships are respected.
At Gemstone Wellness, we walk alongside you with curiosity, compassion, and full affirmation of who you are and how you love.
Ready to begin?
Schedule your session for Polyamorous & Kink-Affirming Relationship Therapy in Chicago or virtually anywhere in Illinois.